Wedding Invite

A few months ago I was invited to the wedding of an “Old Friend” of mine (who I happened to have a little bit of a history with). The history is sordid and too long to get into, but he called me to ask if I would come. I told him that I would think about it… and I have. I’ve gone back and forth for months as to whether I should make the trek across the country to see my “Old Friend / pseudo-ex-something” get married.

I haven’t seen him for 5 years (partly because of our sordid history). I would love to see him again, but I’ve never been in this situation before. I don’t know how I’ll react seeing someone that I cared so much for get married to someone else.

I also can’t help but think about his fiancé. If I were in her shoes, would I want my future husband’s “pseudo-ex-something” coming to my wedding? (Probably not!) I talked to my “Old Friend” and told him what I was feeling. He told me I was being ridiculous and that he would be hurt if I didn’t come.

“Jane, you’re one of my oldest friends. I want you at my wedding. Everything will be fine, just come.” Then he said: “Would you even bother coming to my funeral?”

I told him, “Yes”.

Then he said, “Well, that is messed up. I would rather have you at my wedding than at my funeral.” (Hmmmm, he had a point.)

I don’t know what to do. I know that whatever we had is long done. We both moved on years ago, but I just don’t know…

I tried to convince “Cali-Goose” to be my date (he’s the best man), but “Cali-G” turned me down… something about how he’s bringing his girlfriend (Grrrr). I asked “Cali-G’s” little brother “Adonis”, but he can’t go, because his modeling career is taking off and he doesn’t have time. “Dutch” can’t come because he’s going to be in Montana. I guess I’ll be going by myself (if I go at all), which is fine… I’ve gotten really good at going stag to weddings (I haven’t had dates for the last 3 weddings I went to).