Eugenio-A-No-Go

After the softball game on Friday night, I went to Eugenio's house for the party. He has a great group of friends and we all had a fantastic time. Around 12:30 everyone started to gather their things and head out... including myself. Eugenio asked me to hang out a little longer. I told him it was getting late and that I had to work tomorrow morning. He asked me again to stay just a little longer. I agreed.

I'm sure you all can guess what happened. I thanked him for a nice evening and blah blah blah... I hemmed and hawed (I think that's the expression?). Then he came in for the kiss.

I know what you're all thinking. I should have talked with him. I should have told him that I didn't know how I felt about him and that I'm not sure if a dating relationship was the type of relationship I wanted to pursue with him. But honestly, I never had the opportunity to bring up the subject prior to that moment.

I considered our first 2 dates as "getting to know each other" dates (so the subject never came up). This third date (I'm not sure you can call it that) was a group activity followed by another group activity followed by a good night kiss. The opportunity never came up!

Anyway, the kiss was fine. He was a gentleman. But did I feel anything? Unfortunately no.

Here is the question I want to ask:

Why is it that when you meet a nice person; one that is kind; one that makes you laugh; and one that has a cool group of friends... why is it that you just don't "feel anything" for them beyond friendship?

I've tried dating when there wasn't any "initial chemistry". I thought maybe it would show up later. However, I know from experience that this doesn't work. If chemistry isn't there at the beginning... it doesn't just magically appear later... no matter how much you wish it would. (But that's another story.)

I ran into two of my regular readers (Willy Mahooney & Leenoka Peterson... a charming and fun loving couple, that you can't help but be a little envious of :). They lectured me on not having "the talk" with "Eugenio". (Yes, I know you guys are right.) After the lecture, Leenoka made a funny comment... "Jane, How do you get so many dates. You've gone out with 4 (potentially 5) men in a matter of 3 weeks!"

Leenoka, I don't know the answer. Perhaps, it's because I say "yes" when a lot of women would say no. Maybe it's because I'm willing to give just about anyone a chance (a first date). However, as we can all see... quantity does not necessarily mean quality!